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Hi Reader,
I really f*cking care. Like a lot a lot.
I know that I am a great leader, I know that I always go above and beyond for my clients.
I have helped to 40 people in the last two years step into new career paths. Some have been clients, some friends...some ex-colleagues.
Some have paid me. Some I have connected with an opportunity or a person, and it's worked out.
Nothing makes me happier than seeing other people thrive and connecting people.
And if I am being honest.
I like knowing that I am needed.
If you are anything like me (and my clients), then you thrive off the validation of feeling needed and valued, too
But being someone who thinks and feels deeply
It's also the thing killing your career.
And this is why.
I know how important it is for you to do great work
To have an impact with the work you do
To show up with integrity, honesty and positivity
But you also put SO much of yourself into work
You tell yourself you have to...otherwise the work won't get done
You care about how you are perceived
But it's also because you crave external validation
You are constantly putting in the extra 10%
Your translation of "good" is most people's "excellent
You hold yourself to an impossibly high standard
But you are also becoming increasingly resentful because the effort you are putting in isn't being recognised or valued.
You aren't empowered, you aren't given autonomy, and you don't influence to create the positive impact you want to have.
And all the while you are sacrificing your boundaries, compromising your values and neglecting what you want.
How do I know this? Because I have been exactly where you are.
Wanting to be recognised and celebrated for working hard
(sometimes I was)
But that validation not really changing anything
Because it didn't change the fundamental truth that I had outgrown the job I was in, and it was a complete square peg - round hole situation.
That's the dark side to being someone who really bloody cares.
It's both your superpower and your Achilles heel.
And right now it's the latter.
So how do you change it? It's not a quick fix (sorry to anyone who gives advice that you can "hack" your career.
1| You need to understand what success really means for you
(i.e unlearn a lot of what you have learned in previous roles and school)
2| You need to stop outsourcing your worth and your decisions
(and build self-trust in who you are and your value)
3| You need to stop the overthinking and procrastinating and start making small steps forward (not by quitting your job - but by accepting that you may not be in the right environment anymore)
I am running my free workshop again on the 26th January - How To Make Your Next Career Move In 90 Days.
Not only will I give you the exact roadmap I give all my clients but you will walk away knowing:
a) having made a decision about your career (the one you are flip-flopping on)
b) The next steps you need to take to make that decision a reality.
I will also give you access to a tool - not available anywhere else to help you make that decision without endless overthinking.
Want to save your seat ( I won't be running this again till April)
Click here.
Yas x
